Things Won’t Go to Plan and It’s Ok

I’m an A-type, planning, to-do list writing woman. On my 20th birthday, I came up with a ten-year plan. The plan would dictate my life from when I would finish college, start law school, get married, and have kids. Not only did I create the plan to ensure a sense of control in my life, it was there to guide me from year to year and life event to life event.

Today I’m 24, things won’t be going according to plan and for once, I am okay with that.

Here is the breakdown of what my plan was supposed to be and how it went:

  • At 20, I would graduate university one year early. ☑
  • At 22, I would apply to law school. ☑
  • At 23, I would start law school. ☑
  • At 24, I would be engaged. ⍰
  • At 25, I would be married. ⍰
  • At 26, I would be graduating law school and taking the bar. ⍰
  • At 28, I would start a family. ⍰

Do I sound crazy yet?

Keep in mind, I wouldn’t stick to the plan exactly, but it was a good way to guide where I was going in life.

Was I behind?

Was I ahead?

It didn’t matter.

At least I knew where I was in my life plan.

Here’s the thing – I’m 24 and nowhere near to getting engaged, married, or having kids. It’s not that I don’t want to be at that place, it’s just that certain things haven’t happened for me to be at there. A year or two ago, this would have driven me crazy. My close friends tried to reason with me and they were completely right – things will happen when they are supposed to happen. While it is wonderful that I know what I want in life, I cannot control things like I attempted to.

Turning 24 has been bittersweet for me. I acknowledge my accomplishments thus far – I graduated university a year early, worked at a top law firm for two years, started attending a law school that is ranked top 10 for IP, and didn’t get cut from law school. This all due to the support, encouragement, love, and solace from my phenomenal family and friends along with blood, sweat, and many tears on my part.

For someone who is A-type, plans to the minute, and makes to-do lists for everything, it has been hard to let go of my plan. The more I held onto it, the more upset I got. It wasn’t until I completely stopped focussing on when I wanted things to happen that I was truly happy.

Some days, it gets to me that there is a possibility that I’ll get married after 30 (I want to get married on the younger side, but that’s for another blog post) but that’s ok. Reaffirmation with my faith has taught me that it’s ok. God has a plan, not me. Things will happen when they are meant to happen. Until then, I will live life to its fullest and enjoy all the cake I get to eat today.

Things won’t go to plan and it’s ok.

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How to Plan a Tea Party

I love a good tea party! Having a strong connection to the U.K. has made me appreciate the fun of a tea party with my friends. This year I opted out of a typical birthday dinner and planned a tea party for my closest friends. While planning and preparing a tea party seems like a lot of work, it’s actually quite easy.

  1. Set a date and time (I recommend 2-3pm after everyone has lunch)
  2. Plan the menu
    1. Sweets
      1. Chateau Blanc Authentic French Macarons (42 ct.) from Sam’s Club
        1. Costco has them too! They are frozen so you can pick them up ahead of time. Macarons are expensive but these were so reasonable! 42 macarons can easily cost $100 on average. I paid about $20 for the pack and they were delicious.
      2. Mini Cheese Cakes from Trader Joes
        1. TJ’s has a great variety of frozen sweets to choose for the tea party. I picked up mini cheesecake squares the week before and stored them in the freezer.
      3. Cake
        1. I usually keep most foods at a tea party in “fun” sizes except for one, the cake. For my birthday tea party, I had a homemade funfetti cake with strawberry filling and homemade icing. Not only was it beautiful to look at, it was delicious too! (Shout out to Mom for helping me with the icing and sprinkles)
    2. Savory
      1.  Sandwiches
        1. Cheese with Cucumber on Wheat Bread
        2. Cream Cheese with Cucumber on White Bread
          1. I always cut the skin off the cucumbers and dab the slices with paper towel so the sandwiches aren’t soggy. I prepare them about an hour before the tea party so they are fresh! Cut into triangle halves or quarters.
          2. You can always make jam sandwiches or lox sandwiches. Any variation can work as long as they are simple, delicious, and bite size.
      2. Mini Chana Samosas
        1. Where East meets West… I love these samosas. They are so delicious and I can probably eat a whole packet in one sitting. You can find them at any Indian grocery store in the frozen section. Making fresh samosas is time-consuming so these are always a great alternative. Fry them right before you guests arrive so they are hot!
      3. Deviled Eggs
        1. Again easy to make in the morning before your tea party and its hard to go wrong with them!
    3. Tea
      1. Can’t mess this up… Boil water to put in your tea-pot and use black tea bags (I like Typhoo or Tetley brands). Keep milk and sugar separate.
    4. Apple Cider/Lemonade
      1. A good host provides a little bit of everything! For those who didn’t want to drink tea or were done with tea, I provided apple cider in cute champagne glasses.
  3. Presentation
    1. Tea Set
      1. If you don’t have a tea set, you can find inexpensive ones at the thrift store or department store. I used my Mom’s wedding set for my birthday. It had matching tea cups, saucers, plates, teapot, sugar bowl, creamer, and napkin rings. Theres a recent trend of having mismatched tea sets which is absolutely adorable if you can pull it off! I kept to the traditional matching set.
    2. Cake Stands/Trays
      1. As you can see from the pictures above I had a variety of cake stands and trays to present the food on. Having different shapes and heights adds dimension to the table. For small cakes and bites, I put them in cupcake liners for presentation and easy handling.
  4. Decor
    1. Table Runner or Table Cloth
      1. I used a gold table runner for my tea party ,as you can see above, but a tablecloth will do too! It’s amazing how a simple piece of cloth can really bring a table together
    2. Vases/Flowers
      1. In the pictures above, there are two different flower arrangements and uses. In one tea party, I use a summer arrangement with fresh lavender in a large vase and smaller vases. In the other tea party, I have roses and palm fronds in the vases and use fresh rose petals as decoration for the food.
    3. Candles
      1. As you can see, I used candles in one of the tea parties to match the roses. The look we had for that party was more romantic. They are optional but definitely can change the vibe of a tea party.

I hope my tips and suggestions for an easy tea party are helpful! I had so much fun at my tea party and didn’t have any stress beforehand due to the planning and use of ready-made and easy foods.

Enjoy!

xoxo, Kaval